Hello Sara,
I am "Lucky". Welcome... and congratulations on finding a definitive diagnosis for your daughter. Things are soon to get much easier...
I think most of us would agree, that for a parent, the most frightening and dangerous time is when your child is in a state of serious illness, and you must rely on others (specialists) for direction and resolution. Now that you and your family have answers, life will be far safer and happier.
... and for your daughter -like our son- life will be much friendlier.
Although -as I suspect you are really getting a glimpse of- a little more "food involved". Nothing but sourcing out safe ingredients and scouring the internet for toddler/child style safe foods and recipes...
Of course, an HFI safe diet is certainly do-able... but it's certainly not always the most convenient by today's modern standards of "quick convenience".
Realistically, there is initially a HUGE learning curve for anything to do with HFI, whether it be medical, food related, or social. If you take it day by day, things will evolve naturally for your family.
So, try to keep in mind that every healthy day is a success -and- don't sweat the small stuff, or worry too far ahead in the future. And I'm sure over time you will find a safe, comfortable rhythm with everything that works best for your daughter and family.
Our son (10yr old) has not been definitively diagnosed HFI, but must be on the diet for safety. He has been through much. Too much. And since being on a strict HFI diet, he is healthy long term for the first time in his life. Before this, he had an early lifetime of serious overall moderate illness -and- a few close calls.
And, I'm here to say... it is devastating for a parent to not initially understand clues and how to help their child. Or, watch specialists try and decipher what is happening health wise in times of chaos.
So, our story -like many here- is complicated. Three yrs. ago, our Genetics specialist thought our son's HFI DNA test was just a formality. Until it came back negative. Then, his DNA was sent out for FBPase deficiency. That was suppose to be the "for sure" thing. Nope. Negative. Then tests for everything and anything metabolically connected to fructose (and then others like Celiac etc.) Many, many, many tests including "Fasting test", Fructose Challenge (oral while on i.v), Glycogen Storage, Protein Tolerance test, and a Muscle biopsy to rule out potential Mitochondrial issues.
And then there were even more... so... we unfortunately have an arsenal of experiences...
Truthfully, unless we concede to a liver biopsy... I think we will never have a complete diagnosis. And because our son is SO healthy now (long term on the HFI diet) we will not -unless- something devastating or unforeseen happens to his health in the future. But, I think now that we are very aware of his issues (and patterns), this should not ever hopefully happen.
And in the end, all anyone wants is a healthy child. A healthy, happy, growing child. We now have this. And long term. So this is thrilling for us. We are grateful.
That being said, the assumption our specialists have is that our son probably has a variation of HFI / FBPase deficiency or something else fructose (metabolic) related. And since converting to an HFI diet 2.5yrs ago, our son is safe. VERY healthy and safe...
Soooo, I know how hard it is for you, Sara, to now find and convert to a different style of food for your daughter. Like our son, she already has a taste for some of the stuff that is not good for her. However, you may find that as time passes (and she loses the strong memory/taste of those foods), it will get easier. It has in our case.
For us... the only time our son now kind of 'craves' food with more flavor (or wrong food), is when I realize he probably consumed a minute amount of fructose (and is in a reaction type phase). Another sign is when he either eats more or almost grazes non stop until the reaction passes. Those are more difficult to decipher, as sometimes eating more may simply just be due to growth spurts. Oddly, there is also the opposite, when he feels 'off' and doesn't want to eat much... but that in itself can also make him feel unwell. Oh, and illness (and intense exercise) is a trigger to being more sensitive also.
Essentially, our son is the best when healthy, balanced on the HFI diet, and eating in regular intervals. Intervals that are closer than for the average 10yr old...
Basically, I'm on alert for any clues when something is different than the usual. If there is a pattern over time, it is a clue. And of course, not everything in life is fructose related... but by this point, I think most of us have extreme "mommy radar". For me especially... it has become my "6th sense".
At this point, we are so HFI strict, that our son NO longer has the horrid gastro, blood sugar, metabolic issues etc. we used to see. We now just see the extremely minimal signs as clues. This to us is wonderful, as our poor son lived much of his life previously in the extreme... No more. He is now a healthy, growing, happy, smart 10yr old boy with a healthy amount of mischief. And other than a slightly different diet -HFI- (and perhaps closer eating intervals), not noticeably different than his peers...
So I wish for you, and all with children especially, the same.
Sara...
Try not to stress over the diet not having too much variety. Our son has VERY little at this point. Most days it is not a problem for him at all. On the 'off' days (which generally are the reacting days), I assure him we are sooo far ahead of where we used to be, and are slowly working towards more safe variety. This seems to help.
I have a few HFI safe recipes I have found (and use) that I think are generally easier on smaller children. Until now, I have hesitated to post recipes (or general comments), as my son is not HFI confirmed... and I am extremely concerned/cautious in giving suggestions/opinions (that may cloud true HFI related food/experiences/safety). I believe one must always respect those with definitive diagnosis and their experiences above all else...
But perhaps I may have recipes of value to at least some... so I shall post them soon under a "Lucky" title in the recipes section.
And to Charlie...
Your last post was beautifully written. Well done. Many of us moms are concerned with the same issues... so thanks for taking the time.
Big hugs to you all,
Be well.
Lucky